THE ART OF FLIRTING: IF INTERNET EXPLORER IS BRAVE ENOUGH TO ASK YOU TO BE YOUR DEFAULT BROWSER, YOU’RE BRAVE ENOUGH TO ASK A GIRL OUT.
Some guys are natural flirts and it comes to them as second nature. However, not everyone is as lucky. Nevertheless, that does not mean you can’t learn. You can charm your way into the heart (or pants) of a beautiful lady, keeping in mind you maintain a certain respect and finesse.
- BE A GENTLEMAN
You may be rowdy by nature, but that won’t work for you when you flirt with a girl to impress her. Women appreciate gentlemen. Learn to respect women and make it evident while you talk to her. Pull up a chair for her, open doors, maybe even ask her for a dance. Believe it or not, chivalry is never going to be out of fashion. Women still like attentive men who treat the woman with respect. Pull the chair for her or hold back the doors, she will appreciate it.
- THE PICKUP LINES
“Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again? Apart from being beautiful, what do you do for a living? Nice dress, it’d look good on my bedroom floor. I miss my teddy bear. Would you sleep with me?” For the love of god! Stay away from them. Because using them is more likely to do you harm than any good. Just say “hi”. She will find no hidden agenda behind it, no innuendo, no “routine”, just a friendly honest “hi”.
- COMPLIMENT HER
Compliment her on the way she looks, her eyes, her face, her hair, or her smile. It may sound a little clichéd but it will work wonders.
- MAINTAIN A DISTANCE
Do not get too close to her for comfort. Flirting is a mind game; you don’t have to be sitting in her lap to be the greatest flirt in the world.
- DON’T BOOZE MUCH
There are many places and occasions where you can drink up and act a fool, but when you’re with a girl, mind your alcohol consumption. The best way to deal with the situation is by drinking as much as she’s having.
- DO NOT SOUND OVERLY AGGRESSIVE
You can inspire a woman’s interest by being a leader in the conversation, however it is important to find the proper balance between being a leader and being aggressive. A woman may not respond positively to a man who is excessively aggressive.
- SMELL GREAT
Wear your best cologne when with your girl, or while approaching one. Girls love men who smell attractive. And please, stay away from feminine fragrances. It will ruin everything.
- THINK BEFORE SMOKING
There are girls who are allergic to cigarette smoke. Do not smoke around her if she doesn’t like it. It can be a major turn off if your keep smelling like an ashtray!
- BE FUNNY
No one likes to be with a bore. The best thing you can do on a date is to make her smile and laugh. Women love men with a great sense of humour. Learn how to flirt and you have a killer combo.
FOR THE SHY ONES
Are you as shy as a baby deer? Here are a few pointers.
- Start with a smile.
- Try to maintain eye contact.
- Be honest. (If you’re really shy, it’s really unlikely your story of inheriting a fortune and sporting a third leg will come anywhere close to convincing.).
- Go somewhere loud. (She won’t hear the awkward silences and neither will you)
- Utilize emails and text messages.
- Play to your strengths. Many women are attracted to the silent and mysterious types.
- Be polite and gentle.
- Call her and speak to her at least once in day. If she knows you’re a shy person, she will notice your efforts.
Remember, flirting is meant to be about having a good time! So relax and have fun, you’ll get there soon enough and until next time. Best of luck, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.
TALKING ABOUT THE EX: It is fine you stayed great friends. She won’t care if she slept with your best friend. Talking about your ex is a sure way how to lose her interest. Would you be interested in hearing how good her ex was in bed?
PUSHING TOO HARD: Every woman has her own personal limits – when, how and where. They have different ‘clock-timing’. This has to be respected.
SHOWING OFF: There is a fine line between impressing and showing off.
TALKING TOO MUCH (ESPECIALLY ABOUT YOURSELF): Being able to hold out a conversation is important, but that entails that you do a lot of listening too. Show interest. Ask many questions about her. Ask about her life, friends, family, interests and work. And, yes, listen!
PAYING ATTENTION TO OTHER WOMEN: One at a time, cowboy.