Watching pornography is an alien concept to most women; many even find it to be repulsive, degrading and completely unrealistic. Very much like the way we men feel about soap operas and chick flicks. Of course, unlike soap operas and chick flicks, pornography is not a complete waste of time. On the contrary, pornography can be entertaining, educational and practical all at the same time. And you’re guaranteed a happy ending.

Sadly, women might not be as readily accepting of the idea as us men are. Admittedly, men do tend to over indulge in pornography. The average man looks at 40 minutes of pornography a week, which sums up to 3 months throughout his lifetime. In comparison, he only spends 48 days having sex. As you can see, there is a serious gap between the sex drive that a man has and the actual amount of sex a man has. But that’s not the point.

Watching pornography isn’t as bad as women make it out to be. A study has gone to show that a man who watches porn may enjoy greater desire and arousal in normal, real-life sexual relations with their partner. That is a win-win situation for both parties.

Now, according to theories propounded by the concepts of gender equality, this effect should mimic the same results in the female gender as well. This suggests that if your significant other watches pornography on a fairly regular basis, it will increase her sex drive and there will be two insatiably horny people in the relationship (a man can dream).

That brings us to the quandary of getting your partner to watch people having sex on screen. Remember, most women find this concept revolting and demeaning to their gender, so you’re already in a sticky situation; but here are a few things to keep in mind to help get your partner to watch xxx-rated movies with you.

THINGS TO REMEMBER

1) Technicality:

Technically, women do indulge in pornography, just not the type we are into. Women judge us for watching pornography, but they don’t mind reading the hell out of it. 50 Shades of Grey (a horribly written book, to be honest) sold over a 100 million copies. That means there are millions of women struggling to flip through the pages of the book with one hand.

2) Different Strokes for Different Folks:

Men are easily stimulated by visual antics, while women need a greater range of emotion to get their engines running. Women need the sex antics to be part of a longer story, which is why women opt for erotic novels over videos.

3) Discuss

Talk to her about pornography and see how she reacts. If her reaction is very negative (she thinks it’s disgusting and degrading to women), tread lightly and venture forth with great precision. If she is open to the idea, your job is half done.

4) Choose the right flick:

Just because videos don’t tickle her fancy right away doesn’t mean that she won’t warm up to it. But you have to make sure you choose the right sort of video. Getting her to watch 2 big guys having their way with a woman isn’t exactly the ideal pornography to get her started on. In fact, you can get her to choose what she wants to watch.

THE DON’Ts

1) Never force her to do (or watch) something she doesn’t want to.

2) Don’t compare her to any of the leads.

3) Be attentive to her responses and make sure you’re both enjoying the movie.

4) Never share the fact that you watch porn with your girlfriend with your buddies.

5) Don’t ever use porn as a substitute for intimacy with your partner.

WHY SOME WOMEN HATE PORN

It’s always a good idea to get to the root of the problem before you start looking for solutions. Here are some of the most common reasons to why women hate pornography.

1) It isn’t realistic:

The fake scenarios and emotions aren’t the best formula to turn a woman on. A detention turned orgy or overly loud, fake breasted women being stuffed in every which way is just not going to float her boat.

2) She’s disappointed:

She might be disappointed that you are into movies where detentions turn into orgies or overly loud, fake breasted women get stuffed in every which way.

3) Misinformed Expectations:

She might feel like she isn’t living up to your expectations. Is that the kind of sex you expect her to give you? Is that how you want her to look?

4) Beliefs

It may be that women have a preset judgment of pornography that is heavily influenced by personal values, family beliefs, religious beliefs, societal beliefs and the general belief that the majority of the men are perverted pigs. But most of the time, these values and beliefs are transferred to women through others (parents, siblings, society).